Finding True, Blessed Love
by Trish Regan and Doug Hackett
Have you always wished to attract your
life partner, a love that is blessed and sacred, but have been
having difficulty making your dream come true?
We have been married in what we call
Sacred Partnership since 1992 and would like to share the process
that we used to find each other. This process, we found, was
partly intuitively given to us and partially learned from the
wisdom of others. We experienced it in different ways and found
that, in our determination to find true love, when we focused
our attention to these steps, our meeting was inevitable and
in perfect timing or each of our lives.
We both wished to find our beloved
after years of heartache and experience in relationship, divorce
and other types of dysfunctional partnership. All of our lives
we yearned to be whole and complete and to travel the pathways
of life with our Spiritual Partners by our side. We desired
to be bonded in love, a love so powerful and deep it could take
two souls and create a brilliant spirit of blended and unified
light.
Spiritual Partnership takes normal
relationship to a higher degree of experience. It means that
each person first is whole unto themselves...one does not need
another in order to be fulfilled, happy and in joy. We do whatever
it takes to find the essence of our inner selves so that we
can love ourselves unconditionally, be it counseling, spiritual
healing, personal growth workshops. Then we can participate
in relationship without having expectations that our partner
will meet our needs which frees the relationship to soar to
heights of joy and freedom that can be an exquisite dance of
oneness and separateness altogether within the sacred union.
The other aspect of Spiritual Partnership
is that we honor the other’s spiritual growth and exploration
of their purpose on the planet and support their journey in
whatever way that we can. We observe those aspects of the other’s
personality that aggravate or upset us as a mirror for that
which needs healing within ourselves. We also take responsibility
for our own feelings, refraining from blaming our partner for
our problems and troubles. This shift from the old way of relationship
frees the union to support each person’s individuality
at the same time that our lives are intertwined in unconditional
love.
Five tried and true steps to attract your true, blessed love
1) Heal and complete past relationships
We know that it is difficult to find one’s true love if
one is tied to the past, to former relationships which bind
one in dysfunctional connections or unfinished emotional baggage.
When we are tied to the past or have anger or resentment tugging
at our hearts, even though buried deep within our consciousness,
our psyches are not prepared to receive the clear signal when
a possible love comes into our lives. In fact, it is nearly
impossible for our energy to connect with our possible partner
because of the blockage of the flow of energy from our hearts.
What can be done is to sit in quiet,
ask your heart who you need to make completion with and allow
that person to become apparent to you. When that person becomes
clear to you, write a letter to them with the intention that
you will come to compassion and forgiveness. If that intention
is clear, it will happen if you will write out all of your feelings
and spend at least a half hour doing so. This letter is not
to be given to that person but it used to allow your feelings
to emerge from your subconscious. By the end of the letter you
will find that you will feel very differently about this person
and will be able to truly forgive and let go in the following
process.
When the letter is complete, then you
can imagine that you are expressing the highest of yourself,
you are in your highest radiance. In your imagination allow
that person to stand before you and send love to them from your
heart to theirs (you can see this as a pink light of love.)
Then send compassion into their heart. You can tell them that
you thank them for being your teacher, you love them and forgive
them. And then see with your mind’s eye if there are any
unconscious cords or streams of energy attaching your body to
theirs. Symbolically cut the cords and let them go to their
highest destiny. This is very powerful and will free you to
be open to the right and perfect partner for you.
2) Make a list of what you want in relationship
Find a quiet space and spend some time getting very clear about
what you wish to bring into your life in a relationship. Make
a list of all of the qualities you wish in a partner. Be specific
and write these qualities in present tense as if you/they already
have them (for example, “I have a partner who loves me
as much, if not more, than I love them.”
3) Change your negative beliefs
After you have made your list of qualities you want to manifest
in your partner, read each one separately and ask your inner
self if you really believe that that is possible. Write down
any negative beliefs that may come up (such as, “I will
never find a man/woman who will love me as much as I love them.”)
Then imagine that belief written on a chalk board in front of
your mind. Erase that belief and write the one you wish to manifest
and feel what it will feel like to have that. Do this for each
of the negative beliefs.
4) Feel yourself having the relationship
you want
It is a common belief that if we can feel the emotion, the bodily
sensation and the sense of something for a few minutes with
all of our senses, we can bring that into our existence. Imagine
that you are being held by your future beloved. You are feeling
the immense joy and fulfillment that will come when you are
in the arms of the one you love. Really be there and “see”
this scene from many perspectives (in front of the scene, behind
it and from different spaces.) Exaggerate the feelings for seventeen
seconds and then let it go.
5) Ask for this and then let go of your
attachment
The next step is to ask the universe for this gift of love.
Unless we ask, the universe does not know what we truly want.
Be very clear.
The very last step is to let your desire
and dream go for the highest good and to the will of the universe
and the higher plan for you. It is when we are attached to our
desires that the energy keeps us from opening to receiving what
we want and even, perhaps, something even better. Our attachments
prevent the other person from receiving our unconscious signals
and we may simply miss the opportunity of meeting our truest
love by our unwillingness to be open to the highest and best
that our souls have in store for us.
